Tuesday, March 8, 2016


It's amazing the difference a day makes.

Yesterday was a horrible day for me. I felt like garbage the whole day. I had to tell my beloved Chiropractors that I wouldn't be seeing them anymore. It's been 4 months of 2 to 3 appointments per week and my pain still persists. Probably not a big deal to a few successful guys that I would walk away, but to me it felt like defeat.

That was just one of the things that had me down yesterday.

I think as women we all have those days and really who are you kidding men, you have those days too, the days when you just feel unseen. Not cared about. Your whole person comes under attack. You start to feel like you have no friends and that you have nothing to offer this world. Everything feels like it's crumbling.

On top of your body having issues and 4 of your 5 children down with fevers and coughs, but maybe those are just my personal issues......

Yea, that was me yesterday. Everything was getting me down. I felt depressed.

That was my full perspective and my feelings weren't letting me look past that even though I knew it was total crap.

Reality check. I have a really good life.

But, I had a bad day.

Last night after the day was done I went out with a friend, I had arranged this despite how sorry I was feeling for myself. Miracles still happen people!

It's amazing how connection is really the thing we all long for on hard days.

When I look at my problems they were all linked to feeling alone.

We all have those moments, or months or years, when we feel alone. Mother Teresa said "Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted are the most terrible poverty."

We've all been there, we've all felt the feeling of loneliness. It's an awful feeling.

The truth though is that there are very few of us that are actually alone. There are A LOT of us that FEEL alone, but very few of us that actually are.

Today I had a friend call and ask to come for coffee.

Oh my heart, be still!

This is my absolute love language. Sitting with a friend, drinking coffee and connecting. I felt so loved.

Really though, who wouldn't feel loved by that?

We all long for connection, but we all have those days where we feel absolutely the opposite; alone, unwanted, unneeded, completely not connected to anyone or anything. This is the greatest poverty.

And what do we do when we feel this great void inside of us......we wallow.....we wallow in our deep feelings of loneliness.

And we wait for someone to reach out.

Ok, at least that's what I do.

Like someone should just KNOW what I'm feeling...they should sense my pain....telepathically.....

But really all I have to do is send a text. 'Coffee?'

If it doesn't work for someone, well then just keep moving down the list and maybe the list ends at your grandma, but what if your grandma was feeling even lonelier than you??

Here's the thing we HAVE to preach to ourselves night and day......you ready for this.......REACH OUT!!!!!

Someone today is feeling alone. Someone is hurting, Someone is waiting.

And I am preaching to myself when I say this: STOP waiting for someone to come to you!!! GO TO THEM!

Do it forcefully if you must because we all need connection.

I had a friend in China that was so lonely she thought she would die. So she just started showing up at her friends house every Tuesday.That's takes some serious guts! But guess what, it became a thing and it was a blessing to her and to her friend.

Outside of air, food and water, relationship is the only other thing that no human being can live without.

So today I want to encourage you to do something courageous...reach out. It takes courage, but you are brave and you bring life and love when you step out and send that 'coffee?' text or even take it one step farther and CALL THE PERSON!! Whoa!!! That's a revolutionary thought!!

I am 100% in this with you and I intend to make my husband read this so that he can shove it in my face the next time I try to cry and say I have no friends or that my life is falling apart. For reals. I have friends people. Lot's of them. I just gotta woman-up and put myself out there.

So if you feel alone, I get it, we all do, but tomorrow is a new day and it can make all the difference.


  1. Thanks for sharing this Heather! I love you and I totally understand how you feel but you are right about reaching out even though it is hard. I hope you will call me next time you feel lonely. I love you!

  2. Thanks for sharing this Heather! I love you and I totally understand how you feel but you are right about reaching out even though it is hard. I hope you will call me next time you feel lonely. I love you!